Grace for the good girl

October 3, 2012 at 6:19 pm 1 comment

If there has ever been a book that has spun my world on its ear, it is Grace for the Good Girl by Emily Freeman. I read it last year and it opened my eyes to so many places in my heart that I hadn’t seen before.

Lies I believed, masks I wore, the exhaustion that comes with always, always trying.

I’m reading it again now with a beautiful sophomore that I mentor, and frankly? It’s still wrecking me.

Which is annoying, because now that I know all this I want to move on, be free from it.

But it is sweet to see the strides I’m making, the sunlight through the trees. To know that just because I have lived like this or believed this lie, I am free and it does not define me anymore. I still struggle with choosing and wanting to hide and wear a mask and perform to prove my worth sometimes: but it no longer has the power to captivate me that it once did.

Praying for the grace to slow down and see grace instead.

{two quotes for you, in case you are in the same boat}

“The shape and intensity of our performance comes down to two things: expectations and definitions. I have the expectation of myself to be a good girl, a good Christian, a good wife, and a good mom. Not such bad things, until you understand my own personal, twisted definition of “good”. Good means I never mess up. Good means I weight the perfect amount. Good means I can handle everything, I don’t look like a fool, and I never lose my patience. Good means my husband will never be disappointed in me, my kids will always obey, and everyone basically likes me. Good means I am enough. My goodness is all about me.” (p.25)

{and my prayer}

“As good girls, we subconsciously label ourselves as the strong ones, the responsible ones, the sweet ones, or the right ones. We try to stand tall and capable as the good Christian, the good wife, the good mom, and the good one. But Jesus is calling us to a deeper, truer, freer identity. All he wants is simply you – minus your good works, minus your perfect attendance, minus your politeness. When you really believe that, you may discover that all you want is Jesus, simply Jesus. Not just to get to heaven or to help you be a good person or do the right thing, but to simply love and be loved by him.” (36)


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1 Comment Add your own

  • 1. Joanna  |  October 3, 2012 at 8:51 pm

    I am reading it right now, dearie. 🙂 Thanks for the quotes!


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