Five-Minute Friday: The Hard Love

April 22, 2011 at 4:07 pm 1 comment

I’m so impressed with myself.  I’m actually writing this on a Friday again!

You know the drill: five minutes only, no editing.  Today Lisa-Jo’s topic is, appropriately enough, the hard love…


Interesting that she doesn’t word it “tough love”.  “Tough love” is doing something for someone’s good even if it hurts them temporarily – like disciplining or intervention or something like that.  Because you love them so much that you can’t let them keep hurting themselves.

But hard love?  I think that hurts you.

Hard love is loving someone who is unloveable (at the moment, or always).  Hard love is forgiving whether or not you want to.  Hard love is about sacrifice.

As Sara Groves sings, “Loving a person just the way they are is no small thing.”  Loving others, loving others well, is hard.

And of course on Good Friday – where can we look but to the cross, the ultimate example of love, of hard love?  Hard love is God making the choice to kill his only son because he loved this crazy world.  Hard love is Jesus, fully God but also fully and completely human, choosing to die and accepting the cross so he could ransom and redeem you. 

Hard love is the love God calls us to live out – and to follow his example.  This means following His will.  This means dying to ourselves.  This means forgiving.

My friend asked me the other day if I believed in love at first sight.  My honest answer?  No, I don’t.

It’s kind of funny, because I’m quite a romantic kind of person and the idea is adorable.  And I fully believe in like at first sight.  But love?  The kind of love that will last a marriage, last a lifetime?  No, that takes time to grow.  Time to learn about each other.  Time for the selflessness and sacrifices and dying to self.  Time for wrongs that will be forgiven.  Time to learn to give grace.


Entry filed under: five minute fridays.

the gift we have is now here in the death of Christ I live

1 Comment Add your own

  • 1. Annie  |  April 22, 2011 at 7:31 pm

    I love this.

    I would try writing my own, but I think you’ve said everything that I could possibly have wanted to say.


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