on facebook and happiness

March 14, 2011 at 2:26 pm 5 comments

I’m in that nasty stage of the writing process where I’m halfway done and I’m already doubting/hating/second guessing myself on everything, including the topic. 

It’s times like these when I kind of wish I didn’t call myself a writer.  When I wish I was supurbly talented as, say, an actress instead.  Because I love acting, though I’m nowhere near superbly talented, and in my naivete I assume that it’s all fun and games.  You have to rehearse so hard (I know, I’ve done it) – but at least all the rehearsals are fun

Don’t feel the need to burst my bubble on that. 

Anyway, as I get back to my paper, I wanted to share a thought-provoking article with you.   In “Facebook Makes Us Miserable“, Tim Challies writes about a new study done on Facebook (when is Facebook not making the news somewhere?):

“We log on to Facebook, look through the photographs and status messages our friends post, and believe that everyone is happier and more successful than we are. And when I have spoken to friends and family members who have considered giving up Facebook, this is exactly the reasoning they have given. They look at other people and feel miserable in comparison.”

Have you felt/noticed this?  I know I have.  Challies goes on to draw out why this might be, and how Facebook, while not bad, it superficial and fosters superficial relationships.  Everyone displays their best side, and as a result, we may have 2,000 friends but still feel lonely (and miserable).  No one really knows us. 

It’s a shadow – albeit a glittering one – of the real community we long for and need.

Interesting thoughts there.  What do you think?


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5 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Katie  |  March 15, 2011 at 10:40 pm

    You know, I think I was one of the subjects in that study during my sophomore year. (No joke). Funny, isn’t it?

    Love you, beautiful!

  • 2. Dana Ray  |  March 16, 2011 at 11:45 am

    That is the reason a friend of mine gave, except he said it was also that he spent so much time worrying about presenting that happy, successful facade that it exhausted him.

    But I wonder if facebook reveals our problem with chronic surface relationships and concern with appearance (ourselves and others), rather than creating it.

  • 3. Annie  |  March 18, 2011 at 9:11 pm

    I hate facebook. One of my friends wrote once that it’s essentially narcissistic – and I completely agree. I got rid of mine in November for four months. I reactivated it yesterday to message a friend for whom I had no other contact information. I hate that it’s up. I’m probably going to permanently delete my facebook after I hear back from my friend.

    I definitely think facebook makes us miserable. It’s a shadow of our lives, and yet we often think it’s the substance of them instead. One of my roommates literally posts everything about her life on it. It’s incomprehensible to me. I think if fb is supposed to be anything, it’s supposed to supplement our friendships – not replace them. And I think that’s what it’s become – a replacement for friendships.

    • 4. overlapped  |  March 19, 2011 at 9:45 pm

      Completely agree. I think in some weird way it replaces – or tries to replace – real friendships. I, at least, feel more disconnected from real people when I’m on it, instead of connected. Though I don’t know why. 😛 And oddly, I feel more connected through blogging! Maybe it’s because we share real thoughts and have real conversations? hmmm.

      • 5. Annie  |  March 19, 2011 at 11:02 pm

        i definitely feel the same, and for the same reasons.

        i have a tumblr account and at first i loved it, but now i hate it. it’s even worse than facebook – there is hardly any interaction with people {unless you are a “famous” tumblr blogger, or someone who frequently interacts with a “famous” tumblr blogger}, and i realized i love blogger/wordpress so much more, for the fact that we comment on each other’s posts and invite conversation.

        I realized recently i’m not friends with people whom i can’t hold a meaningful conversation with. and i think that’s why fb and tumblr irritate me so much – there is no meaningful conversation.

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